Sunsets of a lifetime - From Key West

The Engagement Tour

Pat and I are engaged !!!!

What an awesome week Pat and I had. We went to Miami on Wednesday and Thursday, I asked Pat as soon as we got to the hotel in Miami.

Friday we drove down to Key West for the weekend. What an incredible weekend the people in Key West are so nice, we talked to people from all over, everyone had a story to tell, it was fabulous. We met this sweet lady just out doing yard work.

World's first open-source car hits Geneva Motor Show | The Open Road - CNET News

I saw this on CNET and thought this was really cool. The auto industry is going to have to adapt, I wonder if this will be part of the future?



World's first open-source car hits Geneva Motor Show | The Open Road - CNET News

The Secret to Happiness: Stop Caring | Illuminated Mind

The Secret to Happiness: Stop Caring | Illuminated Mind

Check out this wonderful post about our illusive search for happiness.

Balance, Is it possible?

For years I have waded through hundreds of emails a day, tyring to keep my finger on the pulse of the company. Managing all of computer support for a large call center company meant that I needed to be aware of what was going throughout the company. You never new when the CTO or even CEO was going to call asking "What is going on ?". My inbox typically had over 5,000 messages with at least 40 or 50 needing to be read.

As a result of this type of management, everything got a quick scan, I made quick judgements as to what needed further review and followup. Always with good intentions things got put on the back burner, important things, while I sifted through the pile. I worked on the urgent not the important.

I preached to my staff not to work this way, that we needed to stay focused, work on the core issues, but I was the biggest offender. Eventually I grew to hate my job, not because of what I did, but because of how I had to do it. Email was just symptom of how I was working. For me this is really about priorities, if I don't know what is important, I fall back to the busy work, the emails, the easy stuff.

For me, I needed to examine how I determine what is important, in every part of my life. Putting this down on paper was really important for me. I needed to write down what my career goals were, what was on my bucket list, what personal growth did I want to achieve. In a large sense I discovered I didn't know as much about myself as I thought. Saying you want something and being willing to do what it takes to make it happen are two different things. I decided to make some lists of stuff that I really wanted and I found that what really got in my way wasn't money, or time, it was me. For me getting what I wanted out of life is about priorities. Find out what is really important in your life, focus your energies there, and get rid of everything else.

Get rid of everything else isn't easy, but it can be if we do a little bit each day. Stop doing those useless tasks, throw out that useless stuff. Replace busy time with productive time. As I have gotten rid of the junk in my life, I have come to find a balance between work and family. Take the time to know what you want.

Going from A to Z without all of the other letters

As I read more blogs I keep coming across more and more lists of stuff. 7 Steps to this, and the 5 Best Tips for That. These are all catchy titles designed to lure us in. We have a tendency to look for the quick fix, the instant success. In my experience most worthwhile things take time and there are no shortcuts.

I started this blog because my life was going through some major challenges. I was working a job I hated, my wife had died, and I just couldn't do things the same way any more. I needed to change. This however was a gradual process, knowledge doesn't change people, action does.

Pain is a great motivator, at least for me. Facing my job day after day eventually led me to determine I would rather be broke and homeless than to do it another day, so I quit. My job hadn't really changed much over the 6 years I was there, but I had. The things that were important to me, and where I derived my self esteem, the things in life that got me excited, those had all changed. I needed more, money wasn't a motivator, I needed time.

Thankfully, I have found consulting work, and money has not been a problem, but what does one do with your time. I set out to force myself to really evaluate what I wanted out of life. I read Tim Ferriss's book " The Four Hour Work Week" and found some real similarity's to my life. Tim talks about Dreamlines, well I did my "Dreamline", "Bucket List", whatever you want to call it, and it expanded it to layout my goals and aspirations in life. Some interesting things emerged, as I went through the exercise I wasn't nearly as clear about what was important in my life as I thought. I had some vague ideas of what I wanted, many of these ideas I really had no intention of doing, they were just those far off dreams that we SAY we have. Per Tim's book your attitude changes when you start putting budgets together and actually planning how to accomplish these things.

I really started to look at some categorization also. Tim talks about Having, Being, and Doing. Looking at the things that were important in my life I found that "Having" stuff wasn't very important any more, "Doing" things was very important, and "Being" was the most important. I have come to see that the stuff I "Have" really gets in my way, my stuff owns me. So I have started to declutter, less is more, less is freedom. For me I have found that there are no quick fixes, but I can and do change when it comes from the inside out.

The Many Paths to Simplicity

There isn’t one way to simplicity — there are as many ways as there are people who seek a simple life.

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6 Questions to Ask Yourself to Get the Most Out of Life

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” - Abraham Lincoln

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21 Easy Hacks to Simplify Your Life

I use these “hacks” myself (in this case, “hacks” refers to workarounds or tricks to reach your goal), and I’ve found them to be effective in many cases. Please note that you might have read some of these once or twice (or thrice) on this blog before, but I thought it would be a useful resource to gather them all into one post.

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